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"A Kiss a Day Keeps the Lawyer Away".

A very thoughtful and insightful perspective from Sheikh Mirza Yawar Baig on strengthening the relationship between husband and wife.

Very good article by Shaykh Yawar Baig:

Allah said about the marriage:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Rum 30: 21. And among His Signs is this, that He created for you  (mates) spouses from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them, and He has put between you love and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect

The marriage is based on three principles: Sukoon, Mawaddah, Rahma

Sukoon (Tranquility):

No movement away from the spouse...heart, eyes, company. You are and must become each other's best friends, confidants, supporters and advisers.

No public arguments or contradicting each other before others under any circumstances.

No carrying tales about each other to anyone else...absolutely anyone else. Especially NOT to your parents.

Settle differences mutually between yourselves because you're adults
If you're not adults, don't get married.

Tranquility of the home is critical– No storm in the port.

No running battles at home – no scoring points over one another – no power struggles at home.

Don't nag. If he wanted a nag he would have married a horse. So would she.

Do the small things: Those small thoughtful, tender, loving things that touch the heart.

Don't do the small things: Those small petty, irritating, aggravating things that make them angry.

Just because he/she is silent it doesn't mean they're happy. Silence can hide many things including disgust, grief, hopelessness, despair and anger.

Communicate, communicate, communicate. Don't keep it inside. It will fester and grow until it bursts. Let out the steam before it blows up the cooker. But let it out with concern. Don't blame but talk about how it affected you. Don't say, "You insulted me." Say, "When you said that, I was very hurt."

Remember that marriage is about trust. Trust means that there are no barriers between you, no defences. So take special care because your words will go straight to the heart. And no matter what, you can heal the sick but you can't raise the dead. Words can kill more effectively than weapons so consider carefully before speaking anything negative.

Never react. Respond after thinking and only if you need to. And do that appropriately in the right place at the right time.

Always defend each other...their honor is your honor. What hurts your spouse, hurts you.

No arguments at the dining table and in the bedroom. Show only concern and affection.

No screens (TV, phone, iPad) at the dining table or bedroom. Give each other attention.

Mawaddah (Love)

Enjoy each other physically, mentally, spiritually.

Enjoy mentally by good conversation and humor (Laugh with, not at). Never bad-talk your spouse directly or indirectly. Humor is fine. Mocking is shameful.

Enjoy spiritually by praying together. Couples who pray together, stay together.

Show love...not on anniversaries but every day. An apple 🍎 a day keeps the doctor away. A kiss a day keeps the lawyer away.

Show mutual respect in every way. Disrespecting your spouse is to insult yourself.

Demonstrate affection appropriately and at the right time and place but demonstrate it. Don't leave it to them to guess. Be embarrassed about disputing in public and about disobeying Allah. Not about showering your spouse with affection.

There's nothing cute about laughing at your spouse. It just shows that you're a lousy decision maker. If he's such a joker why did you marry him in the first place. Change him to her..same message.

Show that you trust and never betray trust. Remember that it takes a lifetime to build trust and one action to destroy it. After that you may be forgiven but you'll never be trusted again. Don't do that to yourself.

Never lie. Never cheat. Always be truthful because even if you can deceive your spouse, you can't deceive Allah.

Express thanks verbally, nonverbally and daily. Don't assume that they know. Allah knows but He said that He would increase the blessings you show gratitude for and warned of punishment for those who don't express gratitude. Expressing gratitude is about you and your character. Not about the other.

Spend time together: Love needs nurturing and nourishment like a beautiful plant. Without that it will wither and die.

Mulaqaatain Zaroori Hain,
Agar Rishtay Bachanay Hain,
Laga Kar Bhool Janay Se To Poday bhi Sookh Jatay Hain...Ghalib

Raazdani Zaroori Hai,
Agar Rishtay Nibhany Hain,
Rishtay fursat kay nahin tawajjo kay mohtaj hotay hain...my concoction.

A marriage is not a hobby. Marriage is commitment which earns huge rewards but needs attention and maintenance. It's not a machine that runs on its own. It's a beautiful rose garden that you have to tend and nurture to be able to enjoy. Others can't do it for you. You have to grow your own roses. Remember finally that even the most beautiful and fragrant roses have thorns.

The home is not a hotel. Couples must spend quality time together every day...not just on holidays. Being bodily present before the TV imbibing popcorn doesn't amount to spending time together.

One meal and one prayer together as a family every day is mandatory. Build this into your schedule. Change your work if you need to but don't compromise on this.

Wake up each other for Tahajjud because Allah loves the man who wakes his wife up for Tahajjud and the woman who wakes her husband up for Tahajjud. If you have Allah's love your marriage can't go wrong.

Don't criticise each other for anything other than violation of religious duties. Even that, don't criticize but advise lovingly. Then make special dua for your spouse.

Your spouse is your asset. Treat them like assets. Care for them, protect them, maintain them, pamper them, make sure that they're well and happy.

Make sure your earning and food is always Halal. It affects your marriage positively. Haraam earnings and doubtful food poisons your marriage and life. Halal earnings and food have Baraka, give Izzah, protect against illness and loss and earn Allah's pleasure.

Rahma (Mercy)

Maintain a Book of Good Deeds: Write down daily whatever good you receive from your spouse no matter how small.

Keep it in a place accessible to both and read it daily. This encourages each other to do good and to remember it at times when things are tough.

Forget anything bad. Don't demand apologies but always hasten to offer your own. Be gracious when your spouse apologises because one day you'll need that grace yourself.

Never remind about negatives from the past. Don't stockpile garbage. Or you'll have to smell the stink yourself.

Remember and be mentally prepared for tough times, materially, mentally and spiritually. They will come but if you're connected with Allah and recall the good you received from one another you'll sail through them.

Consciously thank one another and thank Allah. Any time you feel you're getting a raw deal, look at someone who's worse off. Sadly plenty of examples of that all around.

Thank Allah for your spouse. If he/she is good, you should be thankful. If not it's an opportunity for Sabr and Allah is with those who have Sabr. So thank Allah always.

Beware of hurting the pious spouse for she's connected to Allah. If she's helpless against you and calls upon her Rabb, He'll answer her. Never put yourself in that position. Same advice for bossy, aggressive wives lording it over submissive husbands.

Marriage is another word for adjustment. Adjustment means to understand that you have to give up something to get something. What you get in a good marriage is far superior to whatever you give up in terms of career, freedom or friends. Never forget that.

If you don't believe that, don't get married because a marriage ruined for a career, friends or freedom is suicide and Hell on earth.

Remember that Allah will reward you for every time you behave with Sabr so be patient. Nothing lasts forever. Not even the bad time that you're going through.

A closed mouth gathers no evil. So speak good or remain silent. What you didn't say can't hurt you, so don't say it.

Finally remember that mercy is to return good in exchange for evil. Not good for good. We expect that from Allah as we expect forgiveness for our sins.

Rasoolullah (S) said that Allah will show mercy to those who show mercy to others. Show mercy because you'll also need mercy one day

May Allah fill your life with grace, Baraka and Rahma.

Israk Mi'raj

Sahabat

Friday, April 21, 2017

Doa

Family

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Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Tetapkanlah Iman

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Allah SWT first

Monday, April 17, 2017

Overhaul Badan jap

Hari ni cuti sebab pi urut badan. Since cuti sekolah baru ni (mid march), my left calf sakit. Sakit di betis tu naik ke belakang lutut, naik ke peha dan last week dah start rasa di pinggang. Jalan pun dah semacam. So semalam sms kakak urut kt sini kalau boleh mengurut badan hari nie. Dapat ok daripada dia, mohon cuti rehat utk hr ni.

So tadi pagi dah mengurut, sakit kat belah kiri. Mmg dah masuk angin cik su tu cakap. Betulkan juga batu meroyan takut jugak terkeluar sebab last year batuk teruk dan tak berhenti. Alhamdulillah. Balik rumah, tertidur dari pukul 11.30 sampai 2.30 petang!

Bangun rasa refresh. Alhamdulillah...

Opss... gambaq takde kena mengenang dgn cerita (^_^)

Sunday, April 16, 2017

Good Vibes

Saturday, April 15, 2017

Jaga badan

Friday, April 14, 2017

Priority

Breathe

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

X overdose punya ehh

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Let's Workout

Monday, April 10, 2017

Nakalnya...

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Sunday, April 9, 2017

Orang belanja

#throwback last wednesday

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Thursday, April 6, 2017

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Wednesday, April 5, 2017

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Tuesday, April 4, 2017

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Monday, April 3, 2017

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Sunday, April 2, 2017

Depa

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